Toastmasters and unconditional living

Wednesday, April 12th. 2017

A month ago I joined a Toastmasters Club with the hope of improving my public speaking skills. My hope was rightly placed; meetings are fun, people are truly vested in your growth, and speaking is as challenging as it is changeful. 

On every meeting there is a different theme, which serves to guide the whole conversation for the night. This day's meeting theme was Unconditional Living. What does your ideal lifestyle look like? This question felt like a wake up call. A bucket of cold water to the face. What do I want? Where am I headed? Lately I’ve been focusing on all that my life is not, or similarly, everything I still need to improve on. But what about visualizing what my ideal life would look like? What would unconditional living mean to me? 

One of the questions posed by the Tabletopics master, was: If you knew success was guaranteed and you couldn't fail, what would you do tomorrow?

The answer came to me instantly. I already know. I've been thinking about it since the year started. 

Damian*:
- But we need to keep planning, what if you disappoint everyone?
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” ~Norman Vincent Peale
You are the story you repeat yourself. 

I know that if I want to achieve my goals, I'm going to have to work hard on myself and my craft. It's not happening right away, but with the help of meditation I will change my thoughts. Giving negative thoughts less attention, and positive, encouraging, selfless thoughts more.

Time to create a new story filled with unconditional living. 

Miguel Nigenda 

*Damian = D.Man. = Devil Man 


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